Hello Aunty Lisa,

Please help me, I am being bewitched by my own mother. She is a witch who calls herself  a Christian and even calls upon the name of the Lord, & claims she is saved.

She is a wife of a pastor since she is married to my father, and they are both wolves in sheep skin, concerning themselves with dark & evil works! My father even aqcuired evil powers from a Ghana sangoma who turned my dad into a prophet.

My mother transfers her devilish & demonic

Dear Aunty Lisa

I broke up with my boyfriend back in September after two years together. We didn’t have a major fall-out and ended things pretty amicably.

I just felt our relationship was all about him – he was always promising the earth and never making good on it. He was a charming guy, but things weren’t heading anywhere, so we decided to call it quits and I’ve since moved on with someone else, who is wonderful and things are already serious between us.

The only problem

Do you think it's wrong that I would consider how "good" a girl's genetics are before marrying her?

From the perspective of what impact they would have on any children we would have.


Tony Li

No, not at all. That’s a reasonable question. If, for example, her family has a genetic predisposition to hemophilia, leprosy, or some other major debilitating illness, that’s worth considering. Of course, if you’re truly in love, it probably doesn’t matter to you

What makes a woman or girl unattractive?


Good question.
Extremes in any form. Arrogance on one end, too much self-deprecation on the other, for instance.
Physically unclean and unappealing. A woman doesn’t need to be a knockout, but at least be clean.
Laziness and sloth. At least try to accomplish something and don’t assume the world will be ready or wiling to help you succeed.
Entitlement. Nothing is less attractive than a person that believes that they

I have a terrible relationship with my mother. She was very strict with me when I was growing up and I can’t get that out of my mind. It is so bad that I can’t even tell her I love her, even though I do. I’m about to give birth to my twin girls and I want my mother to be part of their lives. How can my daughters get to know their gogo when I don’t even know her well? Please help, I’m really stressed.
Stressed, Durban
Aunty Lisa says  
I wonder how old you and

“I am HIV positive and married. The problem is that my husband wants to have a baby. I am scared to fall pregnant. I always insist that we use condoms but I feel I have really ran out of excuses. He says we are married and we need to have a family. Please advise me what I must do. What if I die?” – Neo
Aunty Lisa says
Thank you for sharing your story with us. It still takes courage to disclose an HIV-positive status because of stigma and ignorance. This is why I have to assume from

“I have been married for 14 years to a very stingy man. We bought a house 10 years ago and the agreement was that he would pay the bond and I would pay for everything else in the house. The house was repossessed four years ago because my husband was not paying the bond. I found out when I got back early from work one day and found a sign saying that the house was for sale. He then took out a loan to pay the arrears but he spent the money on friends and alcohol. “I made arrangements with

I’m 24 and working with a pharmaceutical company as a marketing executive. My boyfriend of two years finished with me at the end of last year. I’ve tried everything, from letting everyone know how upset I am, to pretending everything is fine, but, I still can’t understand what went wrong. A week before the break-up,
I’d been away on business and he phoned me every night because he said he was missing me. But, when I came back, he acted very strangely and said he didn’t know what he

I was raised by parents who taught me the importance of remaining chaste until marriage. Even after I left home for college and eventually got my own apartment and began dating, I’ve been committed to this choice I made for myself.
Six months ago I met a wonderful man who happened to share my beliefs, and we fell in love. He proposed just last month, and I accepted. We are engaged to be married later this summer, but earlier this week he told me that, due to health conditions, he is

I grew up in a fairly religious household where sex was rarely discussed (and when it was, it was talked about for the purposes of conception). Now, in my 30s, I have renounced many aspects of the religion I grew up with and come to realize some of the harm it caused in my life—including giving me a very problematic view of sex.
I’m a virgin and have barely even been able to masturbate, let alone approach intimacy with a partner. I feel ashamed and guilty whenever I try, even though I

I’m in a dilemma as my marriage of 3years is about to come to an end because of one silly mistake I made.My name is Anette. I met my husband in my final year in the University. We dated for about 3 months before he popped the magic question.
Knowing fully well that I wasn’t in love with him, despite that I was in a relationship which I hid from him and I just wanted to change my status from ‘Miss’ to ‘Mrs’.

My wife left me a couple of weeks ago after hooking up with someone at work. I was shocked – I had no idea she was even having an affair – and also devastated because I still love her.

She’s gone to stay with her sister and won’t talk to me, which makes me so mad as I’ve done nothing wrong. I want to know if this is permanent as we share a flat together that we both pay rent on.
We don’t have kids, so it’s just possessions we share – and our dog, which she has taken and I miss.

In February my wife was diagnosed with breast cancer. It was devastating news for her – and for me and our son. After chemotherapy, physiotherapy, radiotherapy and a mastectomy, she has now, thankfully, been given the all-clear. But my mother, brother and sister did nothing to help us in our darkest moments. Not one phone call or visit, nothing. All my life I have been there for my family, yet not once have they asked how we have coped. Admittedly, I have not explained to them how I feel as

Hie Aunty Lisa

I’m about to turn 27 and I have never had a relationship or sex. It’s getting to the point where I’m beginning to think that I will end up dying alone.
I’m quite shy and can’t really talk to women when I go out, so always end up going home early. I was bullied through school and rejected many times, which led to depression and I spent some time on a psychiatric ward, which I think has hindered things.

I also ruined things with my best mate (who’s female), as I

Hello Aunty Lisa.

Please don't say I'm thick, because I'm not. It's just that I'm really confused. I'm a 25 year old married man who is madly in love with a 19-year-old beautiful woman. We have been married for 2 years and we have tried so much to have a baby of our own but all efforts proved futile.
We have been to various doctors, different sangomas and prophets, countless specialists and counsellors, but it all didn't help. However, what kep us going is the fact that we deeply

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