Hi aunty Lisa,
I’m a 17 year old guy and I’ve been in love with this girl aged 19 for over 2 years and I wanted to ask her out so many times but I’m extremely shy.
I’ve been obsessed about her, I love her so much and I think about her all the time. About 3 weeks ago though I was at her house and she asked if I wanted to have sex. I said yes and I lost my virginity to her and when we were done I told her I really have feelings for her and asked her to be my girlfriend and she said yes.
Now the problem is since then, we’ve been having sex too much and it feels like we’re in a “friends with benefits” relationship but I want it to be so much more than that. I’ve been starting to feel bad about the sex and it feels like we only love each other for our bodies. This other day she nearly broke my penis!
She always initiates it and I like having sex, but I wanna just hang out with her sometimes and go to the movies or just get to spend some quality time. I’m head over heels for her and seriously I’d still wanna be with her even if there was no sex.
I really love her for who she is and I wanna tell her but I don’t wanna mess things up by saying something that might ruin what we have now. How do I set things straight here, and be like a real couple instead of just having sex?