Hello Aunty Lisa,
I’m a 21 year old woman who has been sexually active for nearly 10 years. I started having sex when I was only 12 years old. I was staying in the ghetto and was raised by my grandmother who was struggling to make ends meet. To cut the long story short, I found a working-class man who was willing to help me finish school, provide me with some pocket money and even money to buy pads and other feminine stuff – at a price of course. He is married but here and there he wants sex from me and in return he takes good care of me.
We have been in this type of a relationship for 5 and half years now and in those 5 years he has impregnated me FOUR times. He doesn’t want to use protection because he says he is married and he is not used to wearing condo.ms anymore. He says cond.oms make sex boring. The most horrible part is that everytime he impregnated me he would force me to ab.ort or else he would dump me and let me take care of my baby alone.
Three months ago I ab.orted for the FOURTH time. He is ever ready to fund everything needed for the safest ab.ortion. My major concern is that he is now asking for unprotected sex again. He is threatening to dump me if I refuse, and he is vowing not to ever take care of me again. I’m now in a dilemma. What should I do? Should I dump him and languish in poverty or should I just have sex with him and risk getting pregnant once more?
By the way I go to a church where it’s a serious sin to take contraceptives, therefore we are not allowed at church to take anything like like morning after pills or birth control pills. Our church leader said in the bible no one ever used those contraceptives, so if we use them we will go to hell.
Please help aunty, what should I do?