“I am HIV positive and married. The problem is that my husband wants to have a baby. I am scared to fall pregnant. I always insist that we use condoms but I feel I have really ran out of excuses. He says we are married and we need to have a family. Please advise me what I must do. What if I die?” – Neo
Aunty Lisa says
Thank you for sharing your story with us. It still takes courage to disclose an HIV-positive status because of stigma and ignorance. This is why I have to assume from your story that your husband is unaware of your positive status.
This is a tough situation. If you are keeping your status a secret it may be harmful to you, your relationship and your man. Your man has a right to know and you have a right to be free of the secret. By disclosing you can invite him to seek professional counselling together. To get correct information and then to make informed decisions regarding safe sex and the consequences of a pregnancy, giving birth and the status of your future child. You have a lot of basic questions for which there are answers. There is also treatment available for HIV-positive people, including pregnant women. I urge you to visit an HIV/Aids clinic, either alone or preferably with your husband.