Yeah, I totally get it. It feels so awkward the first time you pray about your s3x life. Perhaps you prayed before marriage about avoiding s3xual sin and maintaining purity.
But you’re legit now. God created s3x for you—a wife in a committed, godly marriage. So once you’re married, it’s time to shift your prayers to inviting God to bless your s3xual intimacy.
So how do you pray for s3xual intimacy? Consider addressing the following areas:how-to-pray-for-s3xual-intimacy-in-marriage
Healthy body image. You should feel good about the body that God gave you and the delight that it can bring your husband. If you feel shame about your appearance or unveiling yourself before your mate, ask God to help. Pray something like: “Lord, help me to see myself as You see me. Help me to also see the beauty that my husband sees in me. Guide me to be confident and open in sharing my body with the mate You’ve given me.”
Healing from the past. Many wives bring s3xual baggage into the marriage. Perhaps at one time you were molested or promiscuous or taught that s3x was a bad thing. Whatever your past hurts, bring them to your Lord and ask for healing: “Father, release me from the faulty ways I’ve viewed s3x in the past. Give me strength and peace to trust Your plan for healthy s3xuality in my marriage. Help me to replace that painful perspective from my past with Your truth.”
Pleasure. A common struggle for wives is learning to truly enjoy and surrender to the experience and sensations of s3x. God made you to be a s3xual being in the context of marriage. He doesn’t want you to merely endure s3x with your husband, but to discover your mate in an intimate way, to enjoy the physical sensations, to fully embrace the experience. Pray something like: “Lord, help me to surrender whatever mental and emotional obstacles are in the way of my experiencing s3xual pleasure. Help me to relax and rest in the security of Your plan and in my husband’s arms. Awaken my senses so that I can delight in the ways that my husband touches me and the way this body you gave me responds. Help me also to give my husband pleasure.”
Communication with husband. If you have problems in this area of your marriage, you may need to communicate with your husband—explain how you feel, what you desire, and discuss how to achieve your mutual goals and God’s design for marital intimacy. But for some wives, talking to your husband about s3x can feel even more awkward than talking to God. What will he think? How will he react? Take that concern to God in prayer: “Holy Father, give me the courage and the words of wisdom to approach my husband and discuss our marital intimacy. Give him an open ear and an open heart. Help us to pursue being of one accord in our s3x life together.”
Easy peasy, right? Well, maybe not at first. But give it a shot. God is ready and willing to hear whatever you want to talk to him about…including s3x.