Hi Aunty Lisa,
I’m a 21 year old woman who has been dating 3 men since January this year (although I started dating fir first one in December last year). This past Friday I figured out that I’m pregnant. My biggest challenge is to know who the real father of my pregnancy is.
On the day I must have fallen pregnant which is Saturday 14 February 2015, on Valentine’s Day, I had sex with all my boyfriends. The first one came on Friday evening to my apartment and we had protected sex before we fell asleep. In the morning the condom burst while we were having a morning glory session.
My two other boyfriends wanted to spend the Valentine’s Day with me as well. I lied to the other one that I was going to spend the day with my parents and siblings since we had a family function. Fortunately he believed my excuse and we agreed that he would visit me at night after our family function.
I then spent the whole of Saturday with my other boyfriend at his house and we had two rounds of sex. We spent the day watching movies and having fun at his parents place and we had unprotected sex twice. There was no one there, his parents had gone to attend a funeral in the rural areas, that is why he called me to his place.
When I got home in the evening, I phoned my third boyfriend and he then came to see me. I demanded that he should use protection and we had sex twice using condoms. On the third time he didn’t use a condom and I only figured out after he ejac*lated inside me.
I spent the whole of Sunday not feeling well. I didn’t even go to church because I was too tired. I heard that a morning after pill works for 72 hours, so I decided to buy one after weekend on my way to work on Monday morning.
Unfortunately I woke up very late on Monday and rushed to work without buying the pills. I only got the chance to buy them at 4pm when I knocked off. I took the pills when I got home and a couple of hours later I vomited then started feeling dizzy.
To cut the long story short, I only figured out last week that I missed my periods for this month. On Friday I then took a pregnancy test kit which came out positive.
My biggest challenge now is who impregnated me? Is it the first guy whose condom burst or it’s the second guy who never used a condom at all? I know I can wait till I give birth then go for DNA tests to know the real father, but that would be so embarrassing. I wanted to know if there is a way of knowing before even giving birth who real father is because I don’t want any of my boyfriends to look after another man’s child.
Thank you Aunty Lisa for this awesome platform that is helping thousands of emotionally troubled people, especially us women.