Dear Aunty Lisa
I can’t say I enjoy sex with my husband, we’ve been married twenty years and it’s never been great. It’s basically him getting what he wants and then rolling over or leaving the room. When he wants sex he will grope me or even just slip his penis straight in even if I’m asleep.
Until last week, I thought husbands having sex with their wives while they were sleeping was normal. I’ve never questioned it. Sometimes I wake up and know because I’m sticky, other times I wake up during and just wait for it to be over. All that passes through my mind is “at least he won’t want it while I’m awake tomorrow”.
Anyway he’s started watching quite a lot of porn online, which I don’t normally mind because it normally keeps him away from me. This time though it’s given him ideas. He’s penetrated me anally twice now, the first time I thought it was a mistake, the second time I know he meant it and it hurts like hell.
So last night when he tried it again, I was sleeping. He was being very forceful and I wriggled away. I was on my side and he thrust his penis as hard as he could, aiming for my anus, but instead it hit the perineum. The bone between my bum and vagina. Then I heard a cracking sound, he cried out, lashed out at me and rang an ambulance.
He’s home, he has broken his penis and he says it’s all my fault for moving when I should have stayed still. I’m so glad he can’t have sex for 8 weeks but I feel awful for what he’s been through. Don’t tell me to leave him, I would have to leave the money behind and I couldn’t live without my Range Rover and lovely house.