Hie Aunty Lisa
I am 30 years old, and I have been dating a guy for six years. I recently bought a house and he moved in with me. Ever since he lost his job he is no longer good in bed.
I do everything. He is unemployed. He does not help around the house, instead he just allows his friends to come drink and party. What should I do because I love him?
BOITUMELO replies: Taking on the role of financier to your boyfriend changed dynamics of your relationship from boyfriend-girlfriend to mother-son relationship. Now you work, he plays! There is a difference in helping him and taking care of his financial needs.
It’s easy to feel obligated to help because you care about him, but always remind yourself you are his girlfriend not his mother. Get your respect back, tell him to move out!
MOM replies: Darling, you are not only emasculating that man, but you are also babying him. Six years is a long time to be your boyfriend’s mother. There is no relationship there. Loving him is not a point.
How do you even love an unemployed man who is squatting with you in your house and is making no financial contribution, in 2016?