Dear Aunty Lisa
I’m a 16-year-old girl.
However, I’ve recently found out that I’m pregnant – and I’m absolutely terrified of telling my parents.
I’m not with the father, but he is supportive of whatever I choose to do, which is to keep the baby.
I’ve been through an abortion once before, but I can’t go through it again.
The last time my parents didn’t take it at all well.
My situation is a little different now as I’m older and I have a stable job as well as my studies, but I’m still really worried about telling them. Any advice?
Aunty Lisa says
It is daunting and, if I’m being honest, your parents will probably be gutted as you’re about to embark on a new life at university.
However, I think you should tell them sooner rather than later, so that they have enough time to get used to the idea.
I think before you speak to them you should also write down a list of challenges and how you’d tackle them to demonstrate that you’ve really thought about every aspect of having this baby.
That might help to reassure them that you understand what you’re taking on.
They probably will lecture you initially – not least on using contraception – but they will get used to the idea and hopefully be supportive.
And they will understand that it’s your choice.
I think they will feel encouraged that you still want to go to uni, so talk to them about how you could achieve this. Good luck.