I’m at my wits’ end. My husband and I have been married for 15 years and have two beautiful daughters. But the communication has gone.
When I try to speak to him, it’s like talking to a brick wall. If I ask him what’s wrong, he tells me it’s nothing. He will talk to his friends and mother before me.
He’s also unsupportive of me going back to college – he thinks I should wait until the girls are older.
The list goes on and on.
Now I’ve begun to have panic attacks and migraines. What should I do?
Aunty Lisa says
Losing touch with the person you live with is soul-destroying and a very lonely experience.
I don’t mean to be sexist, but men do find it harder to talk about things on an emotional level. But your husband doesn’t realise that he’s making the situation a hundred times worse by ignoring it.
You have to tell him you’re at breaking point and that cutting himself off from you has made you question your marriage.
If you want to go back college, then good on you – don’t give in and decide you won’t bother because you’d rather have a quiet life. The family will adapt to a change in your routine – you’ll make it work.
If you have a good relationship with your mother-in-law, sit down with her and explain how you feel so that when he confides in her next time, she can put across your side of things. She could act as a mediator as long as she isn’t biased towards her son.