My girlfriend is cheating on me and I don’t know what to do.

We have been dating for 10 years and engaged for 2 years and I love her (and she knows I love her), however she had been seeing a man in her office, and it isn’t just having sex, it’s also going out, in fact it’s a very public affair.

When I questioned her about it she said that other than my ‘unwillingness’ to marry her, he is a more exciting partner in bed.

I love her, and I want to marry her but I don’t know what to do?


Dear Ayomide,

I am sorry to hear that your girlfriend is cheating on you, it is never easy when your trust has been broken but let us get a few facts straight.

All relationships hit peaks and valleys in excitement sexually and otherwise, and having dated for 10 years she would know this. Therefore, there is a chance that this is not the reason why she is having this affair.
There is a chance that due to your long relationship without a ‘marriage’ she is either getting bored or scared that you would never marry her and is either trying to force your hand or find an alternative option.
Ask yourself truthfully why you haven’t married her despite a 10 year relationship and 2 year engagement, is it truly for practical reason (making money to live) or because you are not sure?
Can you really forgive and forget after all her rendezvous with another man, if not, do you really want to be in this relationship as a form of revenge for both parties.
When you get the answer of the above I believe you will be able to answer if you should marry her, and what to do.

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