I AM having fantastic sex with an old friend from university but what do I say to my girlfriend, who has just told me she is pregnant?
I am 26 and my girlfriend is 24.
We have been together for two years.
Our relationship has mostly been good but my girlfriend has been distant and cold towards me lately.
I can’t understand it.
I’m having a hot passionate affair with an old uni pal
We rarely have sex these days and she has made nasty comments to me too.
I went clubbing one night with some friends to clear my head.
I was having a good time and trying to put all my problems to one side.
I bumped into a girl who was with me in class at uni.
She is 27 and a gorgeous blonde with a body to die for.
We had a brilliant time catching up.
We had a few drinks and danced together.
She suddenly put her arms around me and looked deep into my eyes.
When I tried to break it off with my girlfriend she broke the news she was pregnant
She then kissed me as we danced.
I was taken by surprise but I couldn’t resist and passionately kissed her back.
Later we hailed a cab to her house and she invited me in.
Once inside, we kissed each other more passionately and moved to her bedroom where we quickly undressed.
I had the best sex in a long time.
I know I have developed real feelings for my friend and I think she feels the same.
We have been meeting up whenever we can.
I don’t feel guilty and I don’t think my girlfriend has any idea about what I am doing.
The relationship between me and my girlfriend is almost dead, while the sex I am having behind her back is unbelievable.
I want to break up with my girlfriend and get together with my friend.
I have explained the situation to my friend and she says she understands and is willing to wait, but when I tried to break with my girlfriend she announced that she’s going to have my baby.
AUNTY LISA SAYS: Maybe your girlfriend was acting coldly because she was feeling queasy and scared of telling you she’s pregnant.
Don’t just try to pretend everything is OK and let her continue with this pregnancy under the impression that all is well between you if it isn’t.
Is your relationship effectively over?
In that case, you must be honest if there is a likelihood she could become a single parent.
Legally, you will have to pay child maintenance – and you have a moral duty to be a caring and involved dad.
It’s so easy for sex to feel exciting with someone new, but what happens when your lover is the girl back home?
If the baby on the way makes you realise you have been letting your relationship slide, break with your lover and put fresh energy into life with your girlfriend.