“My boyfriend and I have been dating for eight months and had planned to wait until we were married to sleep together. I am 27 years old. I was a virgin when we met. One night, with my consent, he entered me but I did not feel any pain and there was no blood when he took my virginity. I just thought we had anal sex. Although he does not say it, I know he does not believe me when I tell him that I have never slept with anyone before. Is it possible not to feel any of the symptoms of losing one’s virginity? I also felt disappointed.” – Confused
Aunty Lisa’s advice
A lot of incorrect information is passed around because of the fear and mystery around sexuality. The story of virginity is one example. Every woman’s experience of breaking her virginity is different and unique to her. Your experience is similar to many women’s stories I have heard over the years. Breaking one’s virginity technically means being penetrated by a penis for the first time. It means breaking the hymen, which is a thin piece of skin covering the entrance to the vagina. The hymen stretches and tears throughout a young woman’s life – she menstruates through it and she inserts tampons through it – and it is not like a tough piece of leather. Your hymen had obviously naturally torn over the years and therefore there was probably very little left to tear when you were penetrated for the first time penetration, which is why there was no blood. You were also very relaxed and aroused with your boyfriend, which made this first time painless for you. Stop him being suspicious and creating a problem where there is absolutely no need for one. I hope you are on contraception and using condoms.

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