My husband and I separated recently because of his behaviour in our two-year marriage. He was controlling and often physically and mentally abusive to me. He wants us to get back together. I’m very confused but still love him. He says he has changed since our separation. Is there a future for us?
In my experience, very few men, especially those who have an abusive and violent nature, actually change. And in most cases, it is too late and of no use.
My advice is move on with your life. Don’t allow these feeling to overrule your sober emotions and thoughts. If you don’t move on now (uzakhalela imizuzu), by the time you feel you’ve had enough, you will be old and worn out, and no man will look at you. Resolution in every relationship or marriage is vital, but when there has been violence and abuse, I don’t think it is a good idea.
How many women have died or become disabled as a result? Leboella Ieaja – it’s an old saying and unfortunately it has been proven in many ways. I feel very strongly that you should do your best and try to forget him. Move on with your life. All the best.