Hello Aunty Lisa,
I’m an 18-year-old woman who recently got impregnated by my boyfriend. As per our African culture, I eloped with her after my pregnancy tests came positive. I’m now two months pregnant. I have been at my 19-year-old boyfriend’s house for the the past 3 weeks but we are now having serious problems after I menstruated last week. Yesterday I took another pregnancy test and it proved that I’m still pregnant, but my boyfriend is now doubting me. He thinks I eloped when I wasn’t even pregnant and now wants to part ways with me.
Please explain to me how a pregnant woman can have menstrual periods.
Hello my dear,
Thank you for contacting Aunty Lisa, a professional counsellor who is there to address your social problems.
I will start by answering your question. You can’t have your menstrual period while you’re pregnant.
Some women do have vaginal bleeding during pregnancy. Some even report intermittent bleeding that seems like a regular period to them. But vaginal bleeding during pregnancy is not the same thing as menstruation. For example, there can be a small amount of bleeding when a fertilized egg implants in the uterus. Doctors call this implantation bleeding. It usually happens around the same time a girl would normally get her period.
Women do not ovulate when they are pregnant, and although bleeding in pregnancy is common, it is never normal.
A true period is the result of shedding of the endometrium, or lining of the uterus, which occurs as a result of ovulation ( midcycle release of the egg) and the cyclic changes in estrogen and progesterone.
If a woman is pregnant and bleeding, with or without pain, she should call her doctor for further instruction. Bleeding in the first trimester of pregnancy may signify either a miscarriage (or a threatened miscarriage), an ectopic pregnancy, or may be due to implantation bleeding. If one is experiencing a miscarriage (or a threatened miscarriage) one will usually always have bleeding associated with uterine cramping.
I advise that you urge your boyfriend to visit a doctor with you for medical advice, that when he will learn that you didn’t have real menstrual periods, but either miscarriage symptoms or implantation bleeding.
I believe once he gets this advice from the doctor he will change his mind regarding parting ways with you.