Dear Aunty Lisa,

I’m in big trouble. I was dead drunk two weeks ago and I ended up having unprotected sex with a close friend of mine, who happens to be a very well known prostitute.

She claims that my pre-ejaculate could have impregnated her because I used the withdrawal method and I know for a fact that I didn’t come inside of her. I blame it all on alcohol because if I wasn’t drunk I wouldn’t have acted so recklessly.

I’m so scared of contracting HIV or other sexually transmitted infections, but the woman assures me that she never gives unprotected sex to her clients. She said she only let me have sex with her without wearing protective sex clothing because I had promised her that I would use the withdrawal method. Since she has fallen pregnant, she claims that I’m responsible and that she wants me to pay lobola for her as her culture is very strict on that once a woman falls pregnant.

Aunty Please help me, could I have impregnated her? because I don’t want to marry a prostitute.

Dear friend, thank you for reaching out to Aunty Lisa for professional assistance.

Pre-ejaculate, or “pre-cum,” as it is commonly known, is the predominantly clear fluid that leaks from a man’s penis during sexual stimulation prior to orgasm. And, yes, it can get a woman pregnant.

It’s unfortunate that you are now in trouble, after failing to control yourself while under the influence of alcohol. You may need to go and get tested after 30 days from the day you had unprotected sex with this woman. If you test HIV negative, you may also need to wait for three months and get tested again, just to be certain that you are free from the infection. It’s unfortunate that 72 hours have elapsed, otherwise I would have recommended that you go for PEP treatment, which helps reduce the risk of contracting HIV after having unprotected sex with a non-reliable person.

Lets get back to the pregnancy issue. Pre-ejaculate arises primarily from the periurethral glands (glands of Littre) and the bulbourethral glands (Cowper’s glands). This fluid prepares the urethra for ejaculation, and, to some extent, may provide some lubrication during sexual intercourse. Despite the fact that these glands do not produce or secrete sperm, the pre-ejaculate fluid may still contain sperm.

How does that happen? Though it is not perfectly clear, the general consensus is that some sperm remain in the penile urethra after a previous ejaculation. The pre-ejaculate fluid “picks up” some of these sperm as it traverses the urethra and escapes from the penile meatus (opening). This theory is supported by the fact that pre-ejaculate from men who have recently urinated (thereby flushing the urethra) or who have not ejaculated for a period of time often does not contain sperm.

Unfortunately, there is no way to know if your or your partner’s pre-ejaculate contains sperm, barring a full microscopic examination, which isn’t very romantic. Normal ejaculate contains tens of millions of sperm (normal is greater than 20 million per milliliter). Pre-ejaculate is significantly less, but may still contain a few million sperm. Since it only takes one sperm (and a few helper sperm) to get pregnant, there are clearly enough little guys to fertilize an egg.

The withdrawal method — or coitus interruptus, as my high school Latin teacher referred to it — is a form of birth control in which the man withdraws his penis from the vagina prior to ejaculation. Based on the information above, it is not surprising that this technique is one of the least effective forms of birth control. If perfectly practiced, the annual failure rate is 4{863ae21f3883e951777bdbc8607717246c41fed58c5a71d477243a35f9718ce7}. But, honestly, very few people are perfect, and the annual failure rate can be as high as 28{863ae21f3883e951777bdbc8607717246c41fed58c5a71d477243a35f9718ce7}! In comparison, perfect-use failure rates for the pill, the I.U.D., and condoms are 0.3{863ae21f3883e951777bdbc8607717246c41fed58c5a71d477243a35f9718ce7}, 0.6{863ae21f3883e951777bdbc8607717246c41fed58c5a71d477243a35f9718ce7}, and 2{863ae21f3883e951777bdbc8607717246c41fed58c5a71d477243a35f9718ce7}, respectively.

So, in conclusion, pre-ejaculate certainly can get a woman pregnant. If you plan to practice the withdrawal method as a means of birth control, the male partner should always urinate before intercourse and after each ejaculation. In this scenario, though pregnancy is possible, it is far less likely (provided the male withdraws in time!). Finally, it should go without saying, withdrawal provides no protection from STD’s.

If she insists that you are the one who impregnated her, then wait until the baby is born then go for DNA tests to be 100{863ae21f3883e951777bdbc8607717246c41fed58c5a71d477243a35f9718ce7} sure that the baby is yours (or not). Good luck!

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