Dear Aunty, I AM 22 years old and my ex-boyfriend and I had been together for about eight months when our relationship tumbled. I got drunk at a party and had sex with another man. My boyfriend found out and went mad. I tried to explain that I did not know what I was doing, but he wouldn’t listen to me. I honestly don’t blame him. What I did was unforgivable and if I were in his shoes I would have reacted the same way. He said he never wanted to see me again and would never forgive me.
Four months later I started seeing another man who is a very nice person. I don’t know if our friendship will develop into a romantic relationship, but right now, I am enjoying his company. We went to a club a few weeks ago and my ex-boyfriend was there. He spoke to me and said he still loved me and would really like us to see each other again. But he was very rude about the man I was with and made it very uncomfortable for us.
I don’t know what to do because I know my ex-boyfriend. He bears grudges and is not one to forgive. I have the feeling that he will always throw what happened in my face. I obviously still have strong feelings for him, but I am so unsure what to do.