Hello aunty Lisa,
I’m in a dilemma as my marriage of 3 years is about to come to an end because of one silly mistake I made.
I’m 24 and my husband is 25. We met when I was in my final year iat University. We dated for about 3 months before he popped the magic question.
Knowing fully well that I wasn’t in love with him, despite that I was in a relationship which I hid from him and I just wanted to change my status from ‘Miss’ to ‘Mrs’. At the time, my boyfriend at that time wasn’t ready to settle down after 4 years of being in a relationship with him. Yet all my friends had gotten married and they were making fun out of me.
To cut the long story short. My boyfriend, who broke my virginity, continued loving me even though I had become a married woman. I would lie to my husband that I’m going to church when in actual fact I was going to my boyfriend’s workplace where we would have sex for several hours. At first we would use condoms but later on we started having unprotected sex.
This resulted in me falling pregnant. By then my boyfriend had gotten married too to another woman whom I suspect is cheating on him and only loves his money.
My husband had gone for a business trip outseide the country when I fell pregnant, but at first he didn’t notice that he isn’t the one who impregnated me. However after giving birth his sisters started telling him that the baby doesn’t look like him at all. He also claims that some of his friends told him that I am cheating on him with another man and for that reason he is demanding that we go for paternity tests.
What should I do aunty. I know I made a big mistake by falling pregnant, and to make matters worse my boyfriend is married and he told me long back that he would never have 2 wives. Please help me, what should I do? At times I feel like killing myself and have peace of mind.